Today, I had a time of reminiscing about my relationship with my dad. My dad is very strong willed. When he sets his eyes on something, he doesn’t give up. How does that relate to my relationship with him? I also have a very strong will. Our relationship can be a lot like an unstoppable force meeting an immovable object when we disagree. That friction causes arguments to be like something out of the movie The Judge. In fact, if you have ever watched it, you know what I’m saying when I emotionally relate to the argument that was had in the kitchen between Hank Palmer and his father. The specifics may differ, but the type of feelings displayed there are all too close to home.
My dad also has quite the lively spirit about him. He can make any person or group of people come alive and out of their shell if he works hard enough. This makes him have a large impact on all the relationships he has with people. I do not think I have the same extroverted qualities, but I certainly can relate to his strong desire to make everyone around him feel accepted and worthy of joy and attention. Sometimes I think this is one of the biggest gifts I have ever been given from my dad.
My relationship with my dad might be tough, but that only makes it more of a challenge, not less worth it. I know that if our relationship is going to continue to improve, it is going to take a lot of hard work and dedication from both of us. Given the two qualities above, though, gives me the hope that if we can agree on the fact that we both really want this, it will all work out in the end. All the difficult talks and arguments along the way are only necessary, painful steps in the right direction.
Love you, dad!